It’s a new year, and there are many opportunities to make the life that you want. You can realize what your true path is!
Society attempts to mold us all into a box with labels and all, so that other people can feel comfortable. People feel comfortable in a family, for instance, when they see that others are “like them”. This is flawed thinking though. It is flawed because even if we grow up in the same family, we are still all individuals. We are all a product of our genetics, background, family, intelligence, experiences and more. So even in the same family, every single one of us is different. Thanks goodness! Because doesn’t life become richer, when we meet and know all different kinds of people? For me, it is especially those people outside “the box” who teach me new things and challenge me. It seems to be, that outside of that box is where all the action is. Where all the discoveries are made.
Now I am not knocking those who enjoy life “inside the box”. If that is what you truly want, and is your true path, then that is where you’ll be most happy. But how do you know where you will be most happy? Many people don’t take the time to figure that out, they seem to just follow where other family members and friends are going. We are after all herd animals. But if you really want to figure it out for yourself, here are some exercises you can do to help you along. This may just be your year to find the life that you want.
The first step in finding your true path in life, is being honest with yourself about who you are. You need to figure out who your authentic self is. You are not here to please anyone but yourself. Your life, is just that, YOUR life. To do this, take a few moments and sit with yourself quietly, but have a pen and paper handy. Ask yourself to list off words that describe you. Be honest. No one is watching or listening. The first time you do it, if you are not someone who has thought deeply about this before, you may only come up with a word or two. Don’t be discouraged. Try again the next day and so on, until you have a healthy list of both positive and negative words that describe who you are. Reflect on your list.
The next step is to ask yourself what kind of life you want to have. Now we are all shown in the media what kind of life we are “supposed” to have. Just think about the Disney movies where princesses are searching for Prince Charming to give them happiness. Or the commercials that are on the television and radio. Or if you belong to a church or a temple, what doctrine is being presented to you about the life you “should” live. Now I am not saying that there isn’t good somewhere contained in all of that. That said though, as I mentioned earlier, every single person is a different individual. How could everyone want the exact same life? These lives that are presented to us from the time we are children may not be the lives we really want. And that is Okay! So this time, as you sit with yourself, think about the life you would want to live, and have a pen and paper handy again. Here are some questions you can ponder: Would you be in a relationship? Is marriage on your radar? Do you want children? Do you like to travel? Do you like a predictable pattern such as a 9-5 job, or do you prefer to work all night? All of these things are important to realizing what your path is. And only you know the answers to these questions. You can’t be your authentic self if you put yourself in a marriage with children working 9-5 everyday, if you prefer to have numerous love interests, a free schedule and work for a few months like crazy and then have a few months off. And if you can’t be your authentic self, how can you possibly realize what your path is?
Once you have completed these two exercises, you are well on your way to figuring out what your path in life is. You are on your way to understanding who you are, and the kind of life you want to live.
The third exercise then, is to sit with yourself one more time, with a paper and pen handy. This time, consider all of the things that you enjoy doing, and the things that you are good at. Continue with this daily, until you have a healthy list of these items. You may also want to list any jobs that you have had that really stimulated you. Or jobs that you have seen, but not done, that inspire you. Nothing is off-limits. Also list environments where you felt at your best. Don’t leave anything out even if it seems silly.
Now that you are starting to figure out who you are, what kind of life you want, what you are good at and what you enjoy… you are well on your way to figuring out what your true path is. Now it might be time to take some risks. People who have the life that they really want, typically have had to take some risks to get there and you are no exception!
This life is short, and we should all not only have the life we were meant to live regardless of circumstances that may have occurred, but we are meant to be happy! Every day is new, and now we are also in a new year. Take advantage of it, and make your life your own.
Wendy Love Edge
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